And on that clear cold morning in the warmth of her bedroom, the daughter was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes
there isn't any more. No more hugs, no more lucky moments to celebrate together, no more phone
calls just to chat,
no more "just one minutes." sometimes, what we care about the most goes away never to return before we can say;
" I love you, good-bye "
She was a stay at home Mom, during the years when it was taught that a woman's place was in the home. He put food on the table from a job of hard and physical work. They loved each other so completely. They didn't judge you or shun you if you didn't live up to societies standard. They were good people and they lived a simple life. They didn't need a big fancy house and car to be happy, just their family's love, and that they had, it was all around them, you could feel it when you went into their home. Then with little warning their life began to change. We noticed silly little things that Mom would do but thought it was just aging. But as life has a habit of doing at times, it reared its ugly head and the truth was known. Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. This was not in her life plans. People shied away from Mom not bothering to take time to see how she was. She was different and maybe people don't know how to deal with "different." and so they turned away from her or pretended they didn't see her. But we saw this and we hurt for our mother. We were loosing our mother mentally before we would lose her physically. Although it took years for the Alzheimer's to take Mom, it now seems like to short a time.
My sister moved in with Mom and Dad to help them. It was obvious they could no longer live alone. Everything seemed to have happened so quickly. And yet did it? How does one miss the signs of these awful diseases that afflicted our parents? We knew something was wrong and tried so hard to find the answers. Dad of course never complained, he spent his days walking in his yard or sitting in a chair holding Mom's hand so tight, so afraid to let go of it, he would sit there all night. Even when he got very sick he didn't tell us. Lung cancer took him without much warning. By the time it was found it was to late.
Life is important,
life goes by quickly. Don't get too busy with your day to day life that you don't make time to spend with Parents and Grandparents. We often think we have plenty of time but then all of a sudden they are gone and then is when we say '' If Only ''.
